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THIS SIDE OF 40: Life With BryM


 CHRISTMAS AND THE YEAR IN REVIEW
 

First, Christmas: the family dinner was yesterday and it went off without a hitch! Everyone had a great time and the food was of course great...largely due to the fact that I didn't actually COOK anything except the ham...but it was a damn good ham at that! hehe

Everyone got a lot of loot (including yours truly) and had a good time. Not that I'm surprised about that because as you ALL know, I wasn't worried in the least about how this would all turn out!!



So now that Christmas is almost a memory, we've got the New Year thing coming up this weekend...and BROTHER what a year it's been!! Yes folks...it's time for BryM's end of year reflections:
  • The year started out to be one of the worst I've had in recent memory. I'd just lost my job 13 days before Christmas and I was NOT in a very good frame of mind because I had to have a showdown with my former employer when the bonehead VP of the company attempted to fight my unemployment claim. I won, but it was taking FOREVER to get the money started. Meanwhile, the house payment & all my other bills were still coming in! I had been doing interview after interview and not having ANY luck at all. Some of the interviews were rather bizarre....one guy had the nerve to ask me "if I could call your dead parents and ask them what kind of person you are, what would they say?" SmileyCentral.com
                                                .......um, I didn't get that job...and I still regret not punching that nosey fucker in the nose for asking those questions!!

  • After four months of interviews from hell, I was FINALLY able to get a job at a local home improvement store working at the customer service desk. The job itself was not that bad, but the pay sucked and the customers were for the most part an experience I wouldn't wish on anyone....especially the drunk lady who DEMANDED that some employees from the store come and push her car out of a handicapped parking space that she'd pulled into after it died on her. She was not at all happy when I told her "NO"......

  • As Spring rolled into summer, I found myself very unhappy with the money situation and started pounding the virtual pavement again looking for something else. I finally did find a job at my present employer....but since I had fallen on such hard times, I made the decision to work both jobs. It proved to be a very BAD choice to make because I ended up not having ANY time off for nearly a month!! I was a complete ASS during that time, so I made the decision to quit the home improvement store. My mood became much better, but I was still stressing big time about whether or not I'd become a regular employee. 

  • As summer here in North Carolina turned into the bowels of Hell with a month and a half of temperatures of 100+ degrees, my lousy luck kicked in and I found myself with a broken air conditioner compressor on my truck. Thanfully my cousin was able to hook me up with a new one before I died from heat stroke! The battle with Christine raged on.......

  • Once Fall started peeking around the corner, I got hit with some good and a whole lot of bad all about the same time. I got the regular position with my company and was thrilled about it, but my elation became frustration when I had to be away from my desk for a 3 week training class and that resulted in issues that to this day remain a thorn in my side. As if work wasn't enough to deal with, Kevin's health took a turn for the worse. The cancer he'd been battling for the past 4 years was finally taking its toll in a bad way. He started having periods of very bizarre behavior and was losing his ability to walk or even stand up. Cindy, Chris, and I took care of him to the best of our abilities but it just wasn't enough and Cindy had to make the gut-wrenching decision to admit her soulmate into a Hospice Care center in Raleigh. Kevin would have never wanted to be in a place like that, but he did understand why the decision was made. The center was an exceptionally nice place with incredibly caring staff, so that made it much easier to handle the decision that had been made. Kevin was only in the center a short time before God mercifully ended his pain and suffering on October 29th.......there are not enough words to describe the devastation that his death has caused for everyone who knew him, but I'm glad that he is finally at peace. Chris and I had both promised Kevin that we would take care of Cindy after he was gone.....it is still very much touch and go, but it's a decision that neither of us has (or ever will) regret. 

  • Winter so far has proven itself to be a time of trying to piece back together some pretty shattered lives and at the same time trying to get through the holidays with at least a half assed appearance of happiness. We've STILL not had any snow, ice, freezing rain or frozen precip of any kind. In fact, we've actually had several days of 70+ degree weather! Of course just as suddenly as the temperatures zoomed up, they fell back down with an equal amount of speed, which doesn't fare well with my allergies at all!! 

Whether the news has been good or bad.....whether it's me bitching about my evil truck, my job, or anything else, I've  found myself literally surrounded by some very caring & considerate people: all of you out there who read my blog every day.

I can honestly say that I very well could not have made it through this year without the encouraging words, helpful advice, and support of you all out there. Back in 2006 when I first landed here I would have never IMAGINED that I'd end up building some very good relationships with people I've never even met before. It's absolutely amazing to know there are STILL people out there who really DO care, and I thank each and every one of you for being so kind!! Hopefully 2008 will turn into a decent year...one that is NOT filled with heartache and disappointment.

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas.....hopefully Santa will bring you all lots of loot!! Just make sure the cookies you leave out for him are homemade and not Oreos! heh heh

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!
Posted by Bry_M at 12:42 AM - 4 Comments   Add a Comment  
 

 MULTIPLES
 

SORRY ABOUT THE "BRYM GOES SHOPPING" POST SHOWING UP TWICE...I'VE BEEN USING A NEW EDITOR AND IT APPEARS TO HAVE MALFUNCTIONED.

THAT'S ALL FOR NOW...TODAY'S THE FAMILY DINNER AND I'VE GOT ONLY A FEW MINUTES OF PEACE AND QUIET BEFORE MY HOUSE IS INVADED!
Posted by Bry_M at 1:06 PM - 5 Comments   Add a Comment  
 

 AT LEAST IT ISN'T MONDAY!
 

        It's been a busy couple of days....I've got a request to make and then I'll get to my post. Not long ago, I talked about a family situation and I got a PM from one of you that lives in South Carolina. I saved the PM but it's buried in my email archive and I've got a question to ask you. Would you PM me back please?

        Ok...not that that's taken care of....as I said, it's been an eventful couple of days. First of all, work has had its ups and downs as usual. The good news is that as of yesterday when I left, I'm officially caught up with everything!

SmileyCentral.com  The trick now is to STAY caught up, but I'm a bit more confident now about being able to do that since I'm starting from a more workable point. Of course I've still got the whole dilemma about whether or not I'm going to continue to look for something else career-wise. Obviously, I'm torn because I do like what I do & I get along well with the majority of my colleagues (even if they DID ignore my birthday!), but this whole deal with the unrealistic requirements & penalties for not meeting them is the breaking point for me. I've sent out my resume to a couple different places this past week, so we'll see how things play out.

           Speaking of work....I don't recall if I told you all about this, but a colleague of mine got the news Thursday morning that she's got a tumor on her liver. She'd JUST gotten into the office when she got the phone call from her doctor....she's got to have an MRI done the day after Christmas so that they can try and see how bad it is and then decide how to go about treating it. Talk about hitting close to home!! You may recall that it's a liver tumor that  was a large contributor to Kevin's death, so as you can imagine I'm very worried about her. Get this though....within 30 seconds of getting off the phone with the doctor, she burst into tears and was practically hysterical. You'd assume that she'd have been allowed to leave work without incident right? Well, guess again. Forty-five minutes of speaking with a couple different levels of management, they were still on the fence about whether or not to "let" her leave, so it took the onsite HR rep to make the decision FOR those managers!! It was put to the managers that not only would she be allowed to leave without an attentance point, but if she chose to stay home on FRIDAY she'd be able to do so without worrying about a "point" for THAT day either! 

SmileyCentral.comThe next morning when I saw her come in, I was more than a little surprised but still glad that she was there! Once she got signed in, she went to the break room and I met her in the aisle on the way out. I gave her a big hug and a piece of paper with my phone number and email address and told her to call or email me if she needed anything at all. We talked for a bit and she told me that she'd decided to come in because sitting at home wasn't going to change anything so she might as well just go to work. I can't say I wouldn't feel the same way given the circumstances. At any rate, she's trying to keep a positive attitude about the stiuation so that's a good thing.

           


            Tomorrow is the big day....Christmas at BryM's house! Cindy is cooking the turkey for me and I'm cooking the ham. Everyone else is bringing a dish to the festivities thank GOD!! I'd go stark raving mad if I had to prepare the ENTIRE meal!! 
SmileyCentral.com  Thank God that I've got Martha Stewart for a sister! She'll make sure that everything gets done on time...whether I want her help or not!! hehehe



            The following is something I received in my email today....it's freakin' hilarious and SOOOOOO me!! Click on the link below and you should see it!
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            I'm writing two posts tonight, so that's it for this one! Hope you all have a great weekend!






 

           

Posted by Bry_M at 11:44 PM - 2 Comments   Add a Comment  
 

 HUMP DAY HORRIBLES!
 

I did some thinking today........SmileyCentral.com

I've not kept it secret how frustrated I am with my work lately, and I was considering the reasons why. It started on my first day when the agency that got me the job sent me to the wrong building. That was followed by several weeks of wondering if I was going to become a permanent employee of the company....I was given vague information, half-true information, and outright false information about the process of working there permanently. Having worked in an office environment before, I was expecting things to be like that so while it was still very annoying, I could deal with it.

Then I got hired as a permanent employee. I was SO relieved and happy about it. More money, better benefits, and a better work schedule. Not that the one that I was already on was BAD, but the new shift was an earlier start. Just as I got the regular position, it was announced that I would be doing a different function...one that I'd had a little bit of exposure to and liked, so I was pretty happy about that. Unfortunately, I only had a little over a week to learn the basics of the job before I took it over full-time. Again, no biggie because I am actually a pretty smart guy and I learn stuff quickly. All was well until I was told that I'd be going to a 3 week training class for the position I'd just had plopped into my lap.

Then the shit hit the fan.

The entire time that I'm in the training class, I'm getting emails from managers and field techs as though I'm sitting at my desk. Nevermind that I have the Outlook "Office Assistant" on...that sends an automatic reply to every e-mail stating that I'm not doing my normal job for X number of days, weeks, whatever....So in addition to the auto reply, I'm taking time to compose ANOTHER reply to each of them that I was not at my desk until November 5th. Meanwhile, someone else was SUPPOSED to be handling my area. Several times during the class, I spoke to my manager and the field managers about the fact that NOTHING was being done in my area and that they'd better be prepared for late appointments unless they got someone to fill in for me.

We all know what happened once I got back to my desk.

Almost two months after the end of this class, I'm just NOW getting caught up, all the while having to fend off the fingers of blame pointing directly at ME for something that I had NO control over whatsoever. It's been entirely MY efforts that have gotten me caught up, and as of 5:30pm today....two days AHEAD.

Having made this accomplishment all on my own, it really started to PISS ME OFF that I have sat for these two months BEGGING for ANY help I could get and even though I was told repeatedly that I'd get that help, it never happened. Even as recently as THIS MORNING, I was told "we have someone who is going to come over and take some of the load off of you for a couple of days to help you get far enough ahead that you won't get behind anymore....." Again...that help never materialized.

This afternoon, I almost snapped. I got an email announcing that there was some computer-based training stuff that I hadn't completed. Well, that's a story in itself, but to conserve bandwidth I'll give y'all the Reader's Digest Condensed version: ever since the infamous "name change" ordeal, I have had a VERY difficult time logging into most everything on my computer. When I ask for help, I get the same thing as when I ask for help on my workload: NOTHING. It's only after MY troubleshooting that I'm able to solve the problems that OTHER people are paid to do.

Anyway, I have the same log on problems today. It took five emails before anyone would even come to my desk and SEE what the problem was. Of course, no one could come up with a solution, but I was reminded that the training had to be completed by TOMORROW. So, once AGAIN, it took ME fiddling around on the network before the problem FINALLY got solved...temporarily anyway.

I get into these "classes" and realized this is stuff I'd already done two weeks ago. Of course even though I printed out the certificates showing I'd completed it, they were nowhere to be found, so guess what. I had to take the stupid shit AGAIN. As I finished each 'module', I hand delievered each certificate to my supervisor's desk...and yes, printed a copy for myself.
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Now, yes...I do realize that these are very trivial things that maybe I shouldn't be so irritated about....but if there's one thing that ANYONE (virtual or in real life) who knows me can attest to is that I can't STAND  when people don't use the good sense that God gave them. This isn't to say that I've always presented myself as the sharpest knife in the drawer, but damn...!!

Ok...I'm done venting about that now.....

IN OTHER NEWS:

---> It looks like my aunt from Charleston won't be coming up for Christmas. Long story short...she ended up having to call the cops on her 12 year old son today when he got violent with her. She had gone into my uncle's home office and found him in there and she smelled the sulfur from where he'd been striking matches. She's got a bionic nose by the way! SmileyCentral.com
Anyway, my cousin kept denying it and my aunt finally told him to go to his room until he could admit what he'd been doing. That led to him breaking the bannister on the stairway and coming after her. Well that's when she called the police...they came over and basically just got him calmed down and told him he should do as his mother says. So he goes into his bedroom and the cops start to leave. As they're walking down the sidewalk to their patrol car the cousin starts screaming at the top of his lungs.....they look at my aunt and then tell her, "good luck with that kid!" Yes folks...our boys in blue...what heroes, huh? SmileyCentral.com
Wait though....that isn't the best part of the story. After the cops leave, my aunt calls my uncle at work and tells him what happened and asks him if he can come home because she is pretty well shaken up over the ordeal. What does he tell her? "I don't have time to deal with this now...I'm just about to go into a staff meeting."  Folks, I love my uncle...and until today, there were a lot of things about him that I really admired. Note the key words, "until today". Once he finally DID come home, he and my aunt had a show down that would make Matt Dillon from Gunsmoke look like a big ol' sissy. Final results: no trip to NC or PA where they were heading afterwards. Oh...and the kid...well it's life as usual for him. I'm so disgusted I don't know what to do!!

Well, I suppose that's enough belly-aching for tonight! I hope you all have a great rest of the week. Ugh...and send me some good vibes...I need them!!


Posted by Bry_M at 9:36 PM - 4 Comments   Add a Comment  
 

 KILL ME NOW
 

       Take the worst Monday you've ever had in your life, then add the way that you felt when you experienced a loved one dying, and finally..just for good measure...heap on a load of just plain bad luck and you STILL wouldn't have the kind of day that I had!! 
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        Yes, it's one of THOSE days again!! Naturally, it started as I got to the office and started up my computer. One of my colleagues informed me that there are some new rules that are being implemented that are basically going to screw over every one of us. It appears that the heifer who is in charge of our office has decided that our job can be done much quicker than it is right now.....even though she hasn't got a CLUE how to do this function of the job!! This is the way that it breaks down:
  •  Instead of having 10 appointments scheduled every day (which in itself is nearly impossible to attain already!) we will schedule TWENTY appointments per day. 
  •   If for any reason that the standard isn't met, then it's time to take a trip to the principal's office to get your hand slapped. Afterwards, we'll have 30 days to meet the requirement or we stand a good chance of being fired. There are of course exceptions to the rule such as:  1) Outright refusal from the customer to have the check up or program upgrade done, 2) The building spontaneously explodes killing everyone inside.....
  •  For every appointment that is made, we'll receive  5 'points'....good for ordering merchandise out of our company catalog.  SmileyCentral.com
         Now let me explain why it is that these new requirements are such a joke:::::in order to make the "goal" I'd have to have my computer logged into the system when I arrived at 8:30am, start making phone calls by 8:35 at the very latest, reach every single contact person the FIRST time that I call and get them to confirm a date for the tech to come out. Oh, and I'd also have to work straight through my morning break, lunch, and my afternoon break. PLUS I'd have to come in for a few hours on a Saturday! Please also keep in mind that this bonehead has NEVER---EVER---EVEREVEREVER done this job! When asked about that by a colleague of mine, her response was "there are people who ALREADY make that many appointments every day....." Of course she could not tell us WHO these magicians are. Yeah...she's full of shit and she knows it. SOOOOOOOOO.....it looks like I'm going to be pounding the virtual pavement and see what else is out there. This NOT something I'm looking forward to, but it's unfortunately quite necessary.
           Oh...another thing. Remember how pissed I was about the whole birthday thing? Get this shit...I come in today and have an email from one of the ladies that I work with telling me "happy belated birthday". 

SmileyCentral.com Yes, it went straight into the "deleted" folder without so much as an acknowledgement that I'd gotten it. If that wasn't bad enough......I was out sick yesterday and it was speculated by another one of the hens that perhaps I'd celebrated a bit too much on my birthday and had a hangover yesterday. I was VERY close to coming unglued over that one. I was nice though....I just laughed it off even though I wanted to shoot her ass out of a rocket aimed for the planet Jupiter.

            In other news: -----
 *Chris and I had dinner with Cindy this evening...she is still having quite a few problems dealing with Kevin's death...which of course is completely understandable. She's at the stage now where she will be ok and then all of a sudden she'll go into these crying fits. There are also days when she will hold up in her house all day long and just sob. I'm seriously beginning to wonder if she's got PTSD....Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I've suggested to her that she may want to get some professional counseling, and she agrees. I think that it would help her out a lot in accepting what's happened.

 *The family Christmas gathering is getting closer and closer!! I'm excited in that I'll have everyone over here this year, but I'm also VERY nervous about it!! Angie (my sister) will arrive early to help in getting things ready--which is a GOOD thing, but in the process of being helpful she'll drive me up a freakin' wall!! I'm serious--if Martha Stewart ever goes back to prison, Angie would make a GREAT fill-in for her!! EVERYTHING has to be PERFECT or she goes into a meltdown mode. The tablecloth HAS to be just right, the centerpiece MUST be exactly in the middle of the table, and the proper utensils MUST be used at ALL times! Personally, I don't care about the whole presentation part of it. I'm just as happy to make a plate of food and then park my ass in the den with a tv tray in front of me! Angie thinks I'm a barbarian because of that attitude.

    Well, that's about it for now. I hope everyone has a good rest of the week.....double good even....since I clearly will not have one!!

 




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